There are many common causes of divorce but when you realize the causes in urban areas are far different from those in the rural parts of the country.
In urban areas the biggest cause is related to communications problems some time which start even before legal marriage. Because of poor communication, expectations may not have been made clear or certain issues that could affect a marriage were not brought up.Some couples may put no power on pre-marital issues only to realize during marriage that they should have clearly set things as they wanted them. Such issues related to communication may worsen after marriage, and at times the couple may fail to get an answer leading to fights and divorce, some time even death.
Money or aspects related to it is of course a possible cause of disagreement between couples both in urban and rural areas. While in urban areas both husband and wife are required to work hard, in rural areas women work hard while men are busy drinking in markets. They pretend to have taken produce but end up drinking and committing adultery.
Drug and alcohol abuse common in these markets cause obvious fights among the rural community. Can you imagine a man who wakes up every first Saturday of the month, looks for a market place and start taking alcohol and other forms of drugs? On returning home, these are too drunk and the only thing they can do is to start fights and demanding for forced sex.
When I talked to one divorced man in a rural area, he said that he got tired of fighting with the woman every Saturday and the only option was to leave the marriage. He further explained that women in his village wake up early, get a polythene bag and go to the market in pretence that they are going to shop, only to return at night. Some return drunk at night while others are caught with other men. This has led to some of them being killed.
However, we have to take note that some time the couples are just un compatible and can not agree on anything whether intellectually, socially, emotionally sexually. In such cases, the best option is divorce or in simpler terms, just not to get married.